I kind of forgot about this blog....

... But am glad people are still finding it and appreciating it!

Another woman is blogging about her upcoming abortion, which I hope you will check out and give her your support. "I'm really having an abortion?"

Since I last posted, I've broken up with the fellow who knocked me up last year, for reasons I won't get into. Let it suffice to say that I'm so glad we don't have a child together and that I can cut ties.

I've also started grad school, learned to wake board, gone to countless dance parties, swam all summer long, and am venturing into a new romance with lovely fellow. He is smart and kind and makes me smile... a lot. Yea, I'm pretty smitten. :D

Life is good.

Every once in a while I think about how different my life would have been if I didn't have access to a safe legal abortion, and I feel overwhelmed with gratitude to everyone out there who has fought for women's rights and freedom of choice. You all rock. Thanks.

Celebrate National Day of Appreciation for Abortion Providers!

Celebrate National Day of Appreciation for Abortion Providers!
Crossposted From Planned Parenthood


Whew! It's been quite a week for Planned Parenthood and women's health, and I realize we've been asking a lot of you lately. It almost feels like our work is never done, and I want you to know that your support and actions are absolutely invaluable to defending choice and making sure women's health remains a priority to our leaders.

A key component of women's health and reproductive freedom is the right to choose safe and legal abortion — a right that I, for one, am incredibly thankful to have. But this right means nothing if there's nobody to provide it. Along with the activists, the legal warriors, and all of us who vote, march, and fight to keep abortion legal, abortion providers themselves play a crucial role in protecting women's reproductive freedom.

March 10 is the National Day of Appreciation for Abortion Providers. It's a time to reflect on the courage and compassion of abortion providers, as well as thank them for their service and attempt to turn what can be a hostile climate into a positive one. March 10 is also the anniversary of the assassination of Dr. David Gunn, the first abortion provider to be murdered by an anti-choice extremist. It is a stark reminder of the unique and dangerous risks abortion providers are willing to face to make sure women have a choice.

Today, the number of abortion providers is shamefully inadequate. More than 85 percent of counties in the United States lack an abortion provider. In rural areas, it's 97 percent. A world without trained abortion providers is a world where safe abortion does not exist. Please join us in honoring those in the trenches: the doctors, nurses, and various medical staff who provide abortions — the very people who make choice possible.

Leave your note of thanks and encouragement to the nation's abortion providers on our discussion board, and we'll deliver them: http://www.facebook.com/topic.php?uid=8934429638&topic=7907 You can also change your status update to say \"is thankful for choice and the abortion providers who make it possible: http://tinyurl.com/ch9gdf\" or \"is celebrating National Day of Appreciation for Abortion Providers: http://tinyurl.com/ch9gdf\" to raise awareness of the importance of safe and legal abortion and the heroic women and men who provide it.

I am so thankful for abortion providers and the risks they take, the hardships they endure, and the harassment they face in order to allow me and all women to have reproductive freedom. Please join me in thanking them — and once again, thank YOU for all your support.

Kendall at Planned Parenthood Action Fund

1 out of 3 ... is ME... and me!

Another voice breaks the silence:

1 out of 3 ... is ME
"One out of three women in the United States has an abortion by the age of 45. Still the experience remains shrouded in silence, and for some women, shame. This is a pro-choice abortion blog based on my personal experience."

"I'm a forty year old feminist who works to little every day to change the world."

The author of 1 in 3 is having a second trimester abortion at 15 weeks, and is one of the few, if not only woman talking about her personal experience with this. Less than 5% of abortions take place at her gestational point.

I applaud her bravery and wish her health and happiness. Her procedure is tomorrow, so please join me in sending her your support and good wishes.

Post Abortion update

I got my period in mid January, about 5 weeks after my abortion. It was a normal period.

I still haven't sorted out the insurance mess, which is partially because I'm lazy and partially because it is so confusing and bureaucratic. Planned Parenthood sent me an invoice a few weeks ago, even though according to my insurance company they owe me money and not vice-versa. Still working on that one! Advice welcome!!

All is generally going well for me, and I really appreciate the support of my friends, my boss, and my partner through all of this.

It sometimes makes me sad that some people I care about would consider my decision immoral or think that women like me should not be allowed to make our own choices about our bodies. But I have no regrets. It upsets me to realize that some women are surrounded by only people who would judge them for making such a decision and don't have anyone to talk to about it. Considering that this is a procedure that nearly one in three women have, it should be easy to find someone to talk to. But stigma creates a silencing barrier.

One group that is trying to fight this stigma is women on waves, an awesome non-profit that you should check out. Here is a place where you can read about many women's abortion experiences. Some of them are even brave enough to share their face. I'm not that brave- sorry folks.

Please know that I will continue to check my email address associated with this blog even if I do not keep posting regularly. Please feel free to contact me with questions or to vent about your experience. abortionblogger@gmail.com

Becoming Pro-choice

This is a great story about one woman's discovery about why reproductive freedom is so important:

http://abortionclinicdays.blogs.com/abortionclinicdays/2008/12/after-today-only-more-light-.html

It's great to see someone feel empowered and strong in a difficult situation.

O! I get it, the healthcare system is broken.

Ok, I finally figured it out. Planned Parenthood sent them a bill for $1,000+, and my insurance company analysed it and decided that based on the agreements they have for huge discounts to insurance companies, that the bill should have been about $275, and that much money was applied to my deductible. Since I payed $525, they have to pay me back for the difference. But if I cant get that money back, I will still only have $275 applied to my deductible. They made this as unclear as possible in the weird letter they wrote me. I will be doubly screwed if I can't get that money back and end up needing to spend my entire deductible.

An important thing to note here (that probably the whole world except me knew) is that the insurance system is based on these huge discounts for insurance companies and people with insurance. In other words, if I didnt have insurance... I would have paid quite a bit more for the same service. Basically, uninsured people are being totally fucked over- their medical care prices are absurdly high compared to other people's. Even a place like Planned Parenthood that does sliding scale based on income, has to accept lower payments from the insurance companies and insured then from their poorest uninsured clients. Ok, I'm not actually sure what their lowest sliding scale rate is for abortion, but I think I heard $300 once. I am not sure. But I bet it is not less than, say, $250.

This is not really about abortion, it was exactly the same situation for my co-worker's daughter who was getting her appendix removed. The hospital could only get a little over half the money they would have been able to bill if she were uninsured. So, with insurance it was a $4,000 procedure counting co-payments and what the insurance company paid. If she were uninsured, it would have been a $7,000 procedure. Now that's what I call fair. Thanks, capitalism!

Insurance is so confusing.

So I talked to my insurance company, and they said lots of things in insurance language that made no sense.

The gist of it (I think) was that the amount planned parenthood quoted me for the cost of the abortion was probably discounted based on my income(since they are a non-profit and do that kind of thing), but since I had insurance my insurance was charged the full cost (which was indeed over $1,000).

Also- this thing they sent me that looks like a bill is not. It is telling me how much I should have owed to Planned Parenthood after my insurance paid their portion, which was $254.13. But, I paid $525. So Planned Parenthood owes me the difference and my insurance company could care less because it isn't their money that is in question. It's mine. So I have to sort it out myself. I've tried calling the billing phone number at planned parenthood for a while, and it reminds me of this other time I was trying to reach them on the phone....

Ussually I would go to my parents to help me figure out this sort of insurance stuff, or to the person in my office who deals with insurance stuff. But my parents are prochoice politically but not personally, and I have no idea what my co-worker thinks on the topic and don't want deal with pity or condemnation in the workplace. It just wouldnt be pleasant.

So I'm done trying to deal with this for today. I guess I will try again tomorrow.